The Common Mistake
Most people try to answer:
“What do they think about me?”
By looking at:
- The 7th house (them)
- Their ruler
- Maybe their Moon
That’s incomplete.
Because you’re still reading the chart from your perspective.
To answer this correctly, you need to shift the chart so that:
They become the Ascendant.
That’s what derived houses do.
The Core Principle
Any person in the chart can become the reference point.
Once you do that:
- Their houses = their perspective
- Their rulers = their thoughts
- Their derived houses = their experience of you
Step 1: Identify Them (The 7th House)
In most relationship horary:
- You = 1st house
- Them = 7th house
So:
→ Their Ascendant = your 7th house
This is the shift point.
Step 2: Turn the Chart (Derived Houses)
Now count from the 7th house as if it were the 1st.
This creates their house system:
- Their 1st = your 7th
- Their 2nd = your 8th
- Their 3rd = your 9th
- Their 4th = your 10th
- Their 5th = your 11th
- Their 6th = your 12th
- Their 7th = your 1st (YOU)
Key Insight:
You are their 7th house.
So if you want to know:
→ What they think about you
You must look at:
→ Their 7th house (your 1st house)
Step 3: Find Their Thoughts (Their 3rd House)
In astrology:
- 3rd house = thoughts, communication, mental processing
So:
→ Their thoughts = their 3rd house
Which translates to:
→ Your 9th house
Translation:
- Your 9th house = their thoughts
- The ruler of your 9th = their thinking process
Step 4: Combine the Two
Now you connect:
- Their thoughts (your 9th)
- About you (your 1st / their 7th)
What to Look For
- Is the ruler of their 3rd (your 9th) applying to you?
- Is there reception between their thinking and you?
- Are there obstacles (Saturn, prohibition, frustration)?
Example Breakdown
Scenario:
- You = Ascendant ruler (1st house)
- Them = 7th ruler
- Their thoughts = ruler of your 9th
Case 1: Strong Positive Thinking
- Their 3rd ruler applies to your significator
- Strong reception
→ They are:
- Thinking about you
- Favorably
- With intention
Case 2: Thinking, But No Action
- Their 3rd ruler aspects you
- But no connection to their own significator
→ They:
- Think about you
- But don’t act
Case 3: No Connection
- Their 3rd ruler has no aspect to you
→ They:
- Aren’t actively thinking about you
Case 4: Afflicted Thinking
- Their 3rd ruler under Saturn stress
→ Their thoughts are:
- Blocked
- Negative
- Conflicted
Step 5: Check Their Moon (Emotional Overlay)
Their Moon shows:
→ Emotional response
Their 3rd house shows:
→ Mental processing
Together:
→ Thought + feeling
Step 6: Don’t Skip Reception
This is critical.
Even if they think about you:
- Strong reception → warm thoughts
- Weak reception → neutral
- Negative reception → dislike or resistance
Step 7: Timing Their Thoughts
Use:
- Moon aspects
- Applying aspects from their 3rd ruler
To determine:
→ When thoughts turn into action (if at all)
The Biggest Mistake
People look only at:
- The 7th house
- And assume it answers everything
But:
The 7th shows them
Not what they are thinking
The Real Formula
To answer:
“What do they think about me?”
You need:
- Their perspective (7th house)
- Their mind (derived 3rd = your 9th)
- Their view of you (derived 7th = your 1st)
The Key Insight
Without derived houses:
→ You’re reading your experience of them
With derived houses:
→ You’re reading their experience of you
Final Thought
Astrology isn’t just about positions.
It’s about perspective.
And the moment you shift the chart so that:
→ They become the reference point
Everything changes.
You stop guessing:
→ “What does this mean for me?”
And start seeing:
→ “What does this mean for them?”
